Book Club

Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood coverUntangled by Lisa Lamour, PhD was both a blessing and a curse.  I say this because it truly has some of the most helpful information you can possibly get about raising teen/tween daughters and I would recommend it to anyone.    However, with all the advice and information thrown at me about how to handle situations, I felt overwhelmed.

Why did I feel overwhelmed?  My daughter is a tween but thinks like a teen (help!!).  While reading this book, I felt like I had been screwing this up pretty bad already.  Also, once I was done with the book and all these awesome new techniques I was suppose to use – well…lets just say old habits die hard.  This is a work in progress people!

Reading this book and realizing I should have handled my girl differently, made me feel bad.  If I had never read this, I wouldn’t have known I screwed it up! Hahaha.  So, I realized slow change is how I should deal with my pretend teen (she’s a tween remember).  Now, I take all the info this book has given me and apply it if I can and don’t beat myself up if I don’t get it right.

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I do want to share with you one of the many things I learned, something I did do and will continue to do.  As the author, Lisa Damour reminds us,  our kids are too connected to their phones.  Let’s face it we all are.  Anyway, she tells us to have kids put their phones away on short car rides – don’t allow them.  Its a time to talk.  So,  when it was my turn to carpool seven girls to soccer, this is what I did.  As you can imagine the girls were not too happy with me.  I had a plan though.  I had stupid Would You Rather questions to ask them.  “If you had to choose which would it be?  Snakes or spiders?  To get eaten by a shark or alligator?”  I know stupid right?  Could be anything you want.  Guess what?  The kids loved it!  They even took over the questioning – it was fabulous.

Now, I am going to ask all of you parents to try this.  Ask the kids to put the phones down on these short rides.  Find things to talk to them about.  They need to learn to communicate, person to person more and less texting.  Let us know how this goes with your kiddo’s.

One last thing I’d like to share is ask your children to actually make phone calls rather than text. Texting can get misunderstood, misread and or even missed all together.  Phone calls help us communicate better, teaches the kids to talk more to one another and to us.

So, see I am trying and for now I will just be happy with my little bitty changes.  What I do know is that I love my kids and want them to be the best versions of themselves.  So I will continue to use all the incredible information this book provides.  It’s a great read.

 

“New” may be relative.  Published in 2013, The Rosie Project by Graeme Simsion is a title that needs to be added to your book list if you missed it.   This book combines humor and romance in a quirky format that will keep you turning the pages.

Image of the book titled The Rosie Project by Graeme Simsion
The Rosie Project by Graeme Simsion

Now, we’re just waiting for the film.  It’s currently “in development” and has been for some time – boo!  Comments about this book are welcome 🙂

Book summary –  from publisher Simon and Schuster

The art of love is never a science: Meet Don Tillman, a brilliant yet socially inept professor of genetics, who’s decided it’s time he founda wife. In the orderly, evidence-based manner with which Don approaches all things, he designs the Wife Project to find his perfect partner: a sixteen-page, scientifically valid survey to filter out the drinkers, the smokers, the late arrivers.

Rosie Jarman possesses all these qualities. Don easily disqualifies her as a candidate for The Wife Project (even if she is “quite intelligent for a barmaid”). But Don is intrigued by Rosie’s own quest to identify her biological father. When an unlikely relationship develops as they collaborate on The Father Project, Don is forced to confront the spontaneous whirlwind that is Rosie―and the realization that, despite your best scientific efforts, you don’t find love, it finds you.

I just wrapped up the HBO series Big Little Lies adapted from Liam Moriarty’s novel starring Nicole Kidman, Reese Witherspoon, and Shailene Woodley (highly recommended).  It got me thinking about the first Liam Moriarty book I read called What Alice Forgot.  It’s one of those books that I think about often.  What would the 29-year old me have done differently than the 41-year old me?  That’s essentially what this book asks.  A must read.

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Synopsis from lianemoriarty.com.au/Book/what-alice-forgot-us/:

Alice Love is twenty-nine, crazy about her husband, and pregnant with her first child. So imagine Alice’s surprise when she comes to on the floor of a gym and is whisked off to the hospital where she discovers the honeymoon is truly over — she’s getting divorced, she has three kids and she’s actually 39 years old.

New York Times Bestseller Hillbillelegy by J.D. Vance is an interesting look into the problems that vex rust belt cities in small town America.  Written from his own experience growing up in Kentucky, then later Middletown, Ohio, Vance shares the unfortunate series of events that could have led him to a life of poverty and destruction. This book teaches us the importance of offering a new path for a brighter future to those stuck in the cycle of poverty, abuse, and addiction.  A bit slow at times, but worth the read.

 

 What’s next on our list?  The Underground Railroad by Colson Whitehead.  Going to see if it lives up to all the hype 🙂
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